Getting your own way

Everyone wants to get their own way. Many employ a range of strategies to achieve this. But there should be only one.

People prefer feeling good over bad.

Simply make sure someone feels good. Easy!

People want to feel proud of their achievements. Telling someone to do something denies them of the satisfaction that they chose to do it. And criticising someone will often lead them to feel "why do I bother". Not a very healthy outcome for either person.

Criticism is a very dangerous tool; and it often wielded without due care. Criticism often makes people feel bad. Empathy, a suggestion of how you may have performed something in the past makes people feel good because they feel included. Both are strategies to achieve something, I know which one I would prefer.